Tuesday, 23 April 2013


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Sunday, 21 April 2013

 
 
1. Allah (الله) The Greatest Name

2. Ar-Rahman (الرحمن) The All-Compassionate

3. Ar-Rahim (الرحيم) The All-Merciful

4. Al-Malik (الملك) The Absolute Ruler

5. Al-Quddus (القدوس) The Pure One

6. As-Salam (السلام) The Source of Peace

7. Al-Mu'min (المؤمن) The Inspirer of Faith

8. Al-Muhaymin (المهيمن) The Guardian

9. Al-Aziz (العزيز) The Victorious

10. Al-Jabbar (الجبار) The Compeller

11. Al-Mutakabbir (المتكبر) The Greatest

12. Al-Khaliq (الخالق) The Creator

13. Al-Bari' (البارئ) The Maker of Order

14. Al-Musawwir (المصور) The Shaper of Beauty

15. Al-Ghaffar (الغفار) The Forgiving

16. Al-Qahhar (القهار) The Subduer

17. Al-Wahhab (الوهاب) The Giver of All

18. Ar-Razzaq (الرزاق) The Sustainer

19. Al-Fattah (الفتاح) The Opener

20. Al-`Alim (العليم) The Knower of All

21. Al-Qabid (القابض) The Constrictor

22. Al-Basit (الباسط) The Reliever

23. Al-Khafid (الخافض) The Abaser

24. Ar-Rafi (الرافع) The Exalter

25. Al-Mu'izz (المعز) The Bestower of Honors

26. Al-Mudhill (المذل) The Humiliator

27. As-Sami (السميع) The Hearer of All

28. Al-Basir (البصير) The Seer of All

29. Al-Hakam (الحكم) The Judge

30. Al-`Adl (العدل) The Just

31. Al-Latif (اللطيف) The Subtle One

32. Al-Khabir (الخبير) The All-Aware

33. Al-Halim (الحليم) The Forbearing

34. Al-Azim (العظيم) The Magnificent

35. Al-Ghafur (الغفور) The Forgiver and Hider of Faults

36. Ash-Shakur (الشكور) The Rewarder of Thankfulness

37. Al-Ali (العلى) The Highest

38. Al-Kabir (الكبير) The Greatest

39. Al-Hafiz (الحفيظ) The Preserver

40. Al-Muqit (المقيت) The Nourisher

41. Al-Hasib (الحسيب) The Accounter

42. Al-Jalil (الجليل) The Mighty

43. Al-Karim (الكريم) The Generous

44. Ar-Raqib (الرقيب) The Watchful One

45. Al-Mujib (المجيب) The Responder to Prayer

46. Al-Wasi (الواسع) The All-Comprehending

47. Al-Hakim (الحكيم) The Perfectly Wise

48. Al-Wadud (الودود) The Loving One

49. Al-Majid (المجيد) The Majestic One

50. Al-Ba'ith (الباعث) The Resurrector

51. Ash-Shahid (الشهيد) The Witness

52. Al-Haqq (الحق) The Truth

53. Al-Wakil (الوكيل) The Trustee

54. Al-Qawiyy (القوى) The Possessor of All Strength

55. Al-Matin (المتين) The Forceful One

56. Al-Waliyy (الولى) The Governor

57. Al-Hamid (الحميد) The Praised One

58. Al-Muhsi (المحصى) The Appraiser

59. Al-Mubdi' (المبدئ) The Originator

60. Al-Mu'id (المعيد) The Restorer

61. Al-Muhyi (المحيى) The Giver of Life

62. Al-Mumit (المميت) The Taker of Life

63. Al-Hayy (الحي) The Ever Living One

64. Al-Qayyum (القيوم) The Self-Existing One

65. Al-Wajid (الواجد) The Finder

66. Al-Majid (الماجد) The Glorious

67. Al-Wahid (الواحد) The One, The All Inclusive, The Indivisible

68. As-Samad (الصمد) The Satisfier of All Needs

69. Al-Qadir (القادر) The All Powerful

70. Al-Muqtadir (المقتدر) The Creator of All Power

71. Al-Muqaddim (المقدم) The Expediter

72. Al-Mu'akhkhir (المؤخر) The Delayer

73. Al-Awwal (الأول) The First

74. Al-Akhir (الأخر) The Last

75. Az-Zahir (الظاهر) The Manifest One

76. Al-Batin (الباطن) The Hidden One

77. Al-Wali (الوالي) The Protecting Friend

78. Al-Muta'ali (المتعالي) The Supreme One

79. Al-Barr (البر) The Doer of Good

80. At-Tawwab (التواب) Guide to Repentance

81. Al-Muntaqim (المنتقم) The Avenger

82. Al-'Afuww (العفو) The Forgiver

83. Ar-Ra'uf (الرؤوف) The Clement

84. Malik-al-Mulk (مالك الملك) The Owner of All

85. Dhu-al-Jalal wa-al-Ikramذو الجلال و الإكرام) ( The Lord of Majesty and Bounty

86. Al-Muqsit (المقسط) The Equitable One

87. Al-Jami' (الجامع) The Gatherer

88. Al-Ghani (الغنى) The Rich One

89. Al-Mughni (المغنى) The Enricher

90. Al-Mani'(المانع) The Preventer of Harm

91. Ad-Darr (الضار) The Creator of The Harmful

92. An-Nafi' (النافع) The Creator of Good

93. An-Nur (النور) The Light

94. Al-Hadi (الهادي) The Guide

95. Al-Badi (البديع) The Originator

96. Al-Baqi (الباقي) The Everlasting One

97. Al-Warith (الوارث) The Inheritor of All

98. Ar-Rashid (الرشيد) The Righteous Teacher

99. As-Sabur (الصبور) The Patient One
06:38 Unknown
 
 
1. Allah (الله) The Greatest Name

2. Ar-Rahman (الرحمن) The All-Compassionate

3. Ar-Rahim (الرحيم) The All-Merciful

4. Al-Malik (الملك) The Absolute Ruler

5. Al-Quddus (القدوس) The Pure One

6. As-Salam (السلام) The Source of Peace

7. Al-Mu'min (المؤمن) The Inspirer of Faith

8. Al-Muhaymin (المهيمن) The Guardian

9. Al-Aziz (العزيز) The Victorious

10. Al-Jabbar (الجبار) The Compeller

11. Al-Mutakabbir (المتكبر) The Greatest

12. Al-Khaliq (الخالق) The Creator

13. Al-Bari' (البارئ) The Maker of Order

14. Al-Musawwir (المصور) The Shaper of Beauty

15. Al-Ghaffar (الغفار) The Forgiving

16. Al-Qahhar (القهار) The Subduer

17. Al-Wahhab (الوهاب) The Giver of All

18. Ar-Razzaq (الرزاق) The Sustainer

19. Al-Fattah (الفتاح) The Opener

20. Al-`Alim (العليم) The Knower of All

21. Al-Qabid (القابض) The Constrictor

22. Al-Basit (الباسط) The Reliever

23. Al-Khafid (الخافض) The Abaser

24. Ar-Rafi (الرافع) The Exalter

25. Al-Mu'izz (المعز) The Bestower of Honors

26. Al-Mudhill (المذل) The Humiliator

27. As-Sami (السميع) The Hearer of All

28. Al-Basir (البصير) The Seer of All

29. Al-Hakam (الحكم) The Judge

30. Al-`Adl (العدل) The Just

31. Al-Latif (اللطيف) The Subtle One

32. Al-Khabir (الخبير) The All-Aware

33. Al-Halim (الحليم) The Forbearing

34. Al-Azim (العظيم) The Magnificent

35. Al-Ghafur (الغفور) The Forgiver and Hider of Faults

36. Ash-Shakur (الشكور) The Rewarder of Thankfulness

37. Al-Ali (العلى) The Highest

38. Al-Kabir (الكبير) The Greatest

39. Al-Hafiz (الحفيظ) The Preserver

40. Al-Muqit (المقيت) The Nourisher

41. Al-Hasib (الحسيب) The Accounter

42. Al-Jalil (الجليل) The Mighty

43. Al-Karim (الكريم) The Generous

44. Ar-Raqib (الرقيب) The Watchful One

45. Al-Mujib (المجيب) The Responder to Prayer

46. Al-Wasi (الواسع) The All-Comprehending

47. Al-Hakim (الحكيم) The Perfectly Wise

48. Al-Wadud (الودود) The Loving One

49. Al-Majid (المجيد) The Majestic One

50. Al-Ba'ith (الباعث) The Resurrector

51. Ash-Shahid (الشهيد) The Witness

52. Al-Haqq (الحق) The Truth

53. Al-Wakil (الوكيل) The Trustee

54. Al-Qawiyy (القوى) The Possessor of All Strength

55. Al-Matin (المتين) The Forceful One

56. Al-Waliyy (الولى) The Governor

57. Al-Hamid (الحميد) The Praised One

58. Al-Muhsi (المحصى) The Appraiser

59. Al-Mubdi' (المبدئ) The Originator

60. Al-Mu'id (المعيد) The Restorer

61. Al-Muhyi (المحيى) The Giver of Life

62. Al-Mumit (المميت) The Taker of Life

63. Al-Hayy (الحي) The Ever Living One

64. Al-Qayyum (القيوم) The Self-Existing One

65. Al-Wajid (الواجد) The Finder

66. Al-Majid (الماجد) The Glorious

67. Al-Wahid (الواحد) The One, The All Inclusive, The Indivisible

68. As-Samad (الصمد) The Satisfier of All Needs

69. Al-Qadir (القادر) The All Powerful

70. Al-Muqtadir (المقتدر) The Creator of All Power

71. Al-Muqaddim (المقدم) The Expediter

72. Al-Mu'akhkhir (المؤخر) The Delayer

73. Al-Awwal (الأول) The First

74. Al-Akhir (الأخر) The Last

75. Az-Zahir (الظاهر) The Manifest One

76. Al-Batin (الباطن) The Hidden One

77. Al-Wali (الوالي) The Protecting Friend

78. Al-Muta'ali (المتعالي) The Supreme One

79. Al-Barr (البر) The Doer of Good

80. At-Tawwab (التواب) Guide to Repentance

81. Al-Muntaqim (المنتقم) The Avenger

82. Al-'Afuww (العفو) The Forgiver

83. Ar-Ra'uf (الرؤوف) The Clement

84. Malik-al-Mulk (مالك الملك) The Owner of All

85. Dhu-al-Jalal wa-al-Ikramذو الجلال و الإكرام) ( The Lord of Majesty and Bounty

86. Al-Muqsit (المقسط) The Equitable One

87. Al-Jami' (الجامع) The Gatherer

88. Al-Ghani (الغنى) The Rich One

89. Al-Mughni (المغنى) The Enricher

90. Al-Mani'(المانع) The Preventer of Harm

91. Ad-Darr (الضار) The Creator of The Harmful

92. An-Nafi' (النافع) The Creator of Good

93. An-Nur (النور) The Light

94. Al-Hadi (الهادي) The Guide

95. Al-Badi (البديع) The Originator

96. Al-Baqi (الباقي) The Everlasting One

97. Al-Warith (الوارث) The Inheritor of All

98. Ar-Rashid (الرشيد) The Righteous Teacher

99. As-Sabur (الصبور) The Patient One

Saturday, 20 April 2013




A Muslim should maintain good relations with his relatives, but he should not unjustly favor them over others. Further, a Muslim must be good to his neighbors, no matter their religion. But the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that a "neighbor" is not just the one next door but includes all those up to forty houses in all directions - effectively a whole neighborhood.

An Ansar (emigrant) came to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and said that he has recently purchased a house in a particular area and that his nearest person was such that he had no hope of any goodness from him and that he felt unsafe from his mischief. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) told Imam Ali (as), Salman Al-Farsi, Abu Zar Ghaffari and Miqdad ibn Aswad to go to the Mosque and announce: "He is not a believer whose neighbour is unsafe from his mischief." They announced it thrice and then to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) pointed towards forty doors to his right and forty to the left indicating that forty houses in every direction constitute ones neighbourhood. One is obliged to observe their rights.

This concern for our neighbors can take many forms. It means to ensure that our neighbors have the basic necessities, for a Muslim should not eat if his or her neighbor is going hungry. It means that Muslims should wish for their neighbors what they wish for themselves. It means sharing their happiness and sorrow. Further, it means to not spy on them and respect their privacy, to not gossip about them, to not harm them in any way, and to keep common use areas - such as apartment building entrances, streets and sidewalks - clean.

Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was told of a woman who prayed during night and fasted a lot during day and gave alms generously, but whose neighbors complained of her abusive tongue. He said that she would be in Hellfire. When Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was told of another woman who did not do all those extra acts of worship other than just compulsory (Wajib) but whose neighbors were happy with her, he said that she would be in Paradise. Thus we see the importance of being good to our neighbors, both in actions and words.


Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) on the rights of the neighbour, said: "It is to help him if he asks your help, to lend him if he asks to borrow from you, to satisfy his needs if he becomes poor, to console him if he is visited by an affliction, to congratulate him if is met with good fortune, to visit him if he becomes ill, to attend his funeral if he dies, not to make your house higher than his without his consent lest you deny him the breeze, to offer him fruit when you buy some or to take it to your home secretly if you do not do that, nor to send out your children with it so as not to upset his children, nor to bother him by the tempting smell of your food unless you send him some." The Scale of Wisdom, P.234/235 no.1308
Imam Ali (as) says: A person is either your brother in faith, or your equal in humanity.\
Islam and Neighbourhood (Neighborhood): Kindness to a Non-Muslim Neighbor
The neighbor holds a special status in Islam. Islam encourages Muslims to treat their neighbors in a gentle way that reflects the true and genuine spirit of Islam as exemplified in its tolerant aspect especially with people of other faiths. It makes no difference whether the neighbors are Muslim or non-Muslim. Ayesha, the Mother of the Believers, stated that she once asked Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), "O Messenger of Allah! I have two neighbors. To whom shall I send my gifts?" Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "To the one whose gate is nearer to you."

It is clear from the above Prophetic Hadith that Muslims are encouraged to not only treat our neighbors kindly, but also to exchange gifts with them. The wording of the Hadith does not indicate whether the one with whom we exchange gifts is a Muslim or not.
Below are ten tips on how to approach your non-Muslim neighbors in a kind way that exemplifies Islamic manners:

1. Being good to neighbors is not only restricted to those who share the same building with you. Your roommate at the dorm is your neighbor; the person sitting behind you or next to you in a bus or at a bus stop is your neighbor; the one sharing your office at work is your neighbor; the person enjoying fresh air next to you in a public garden is also a neighbor. You ought to treat all of those people kindly and socialize with them within the permitted scope of Shariah Islamic Law.

2. Introduce yourself and your family to your neighbors when you move into a new place or when new neighbors move in. This will also help to relieve any fears or tensions they may have about Muslims. Also, don't forget to say good-bye when you or they move away.

3. Care for them continually, especially at times of need and distress, as "the neighbor in need is a neighbor indeed." If a neighbor is elderly or chronically ill, offer to run errands or shop for him or her.

4. In dealing with neighbors, it is safer to deal with those of the same sex as yourself. This does not mean that you should stop socializing at work or school with your non-Muslim workmates or classmates of the opposite sex, but be aware of satanic snares. After-hours socializing should be with your same sex.

5. While socializing with non-Muslims, be cautious of becoming too lenient at the expense of your creed and principles. For example, don't go out drinking with them. They will respect you more for sticking to your principles than for breaking the rules.

6. In addition to sharing ideas, you can share meals with them by inviting them to dinner on the weekend or accepting their invitation to the same, provided that you let them know about your dietary restrictions (Halal and Haram) as a Muslim.

7. Conduct mutual visits so that the families can interact in a constructive way. If the discussion does turn to religion, focus on areas of common ground. For example, if your neighbors are Christian, then you should not enter into a futile argument with them about whether Jesus is God incarnate or not. Rather, tell them to what extent Islam honors all God's Prophets and Messengers as a whole, and that Jesus is granted a special status among God's Prophets and Messengers.

8. While socializing with neighbors, present your religion (Islam) in the best way. If you are faced with a difficult question or a distortion about Islam, do not be ashamed to stop for a while and tell them that you will try to contact a more knowledgeable person to seek the guidance regarding the issue raised. Thus, common grounds should be enhanced, and areas of dissension should never be raised.

9. If your neighbors show an interest in Islam, invite them to attend Islamic events, and even to accompany you to the mosque to see what it is like. It may be that their hearts become softened to Islam, and if they remain non-Muslim, at least you have succeeded in breaking the barrier. You can also visit the church where your neighbors pray if they invite you to do that, but here you should be cautious not to perform any act that your religion prohibits. In brief, be only a watchful monitor.

10. Always keep in mind the mighty reward that is in store for you in the Hereafter when you show kindness to a neighbor.
Rights of Neighbours (Neighbors): Neighbours in Islam (Neighborhood Story)

11:16 Unknown



A Muslim should maintain good relations with his relatives, but he should not unjustly favor them over others. Further, a Muslim must be good to his neighbors, no matter their religion. But the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that a "neighbor" is not just the one next door but includes all those up to forty houses in all directions - effectively a whole neighborhood.

An Ansar (emigrant) came to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and said that he has recently purchased a house in a particular area and that his nearest person was such that he had no hope of any goodness from him and that he felt unsafe from his mischief. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) told Imam Ali (as), Salman Al-Farsi, Abu Zar Ghaffari and Miqdad ibn Aswad to go to the Mosque and announce: "He is not a believer whose neighbour is unsafe from his mischief." They announced it thrice and then to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) pointed towards forty doors to his right and forty to the left indicating that forty houses in every direction constitute ones neighbourhood. One is obliged to observe their rights.

This concern for our neighbors can take many forms. It means to ensure that our neighbors have the basic necessities, for a Muslim should not eat if his or her neighbor is going hungry. It means that Muslims should wish for their neighbors what they wish for themselves. It means sharing their happiness and sorrow. Further, it means to not spy on them and respect their privacy, to not gossip about them, to not harm them in any way, and to keep common use areas - such as apartment building entrances, streets and sidewalks - clean.

Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was told of a woman who prayed during night and fasted a lot during day and gave alms generously, but whose neighbors complained of her abusive tongue. He said that she would be in Hellfire. When Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was told of another woman who did not do all those extra acts of worship other than just compulsory (Wajib) but whose neighbors were happy with her, he said that she would be in Paradise. Thus we see the importance of being good to our neighbors, both in actions and words.


Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) on the rights of the neighbour, said: "It is to help him if he asks your help, to lend him if he asks to borrow from you, to satisfy his needs if he becomes poor, to console him if he is visited by an affliction, to congratulate him if is met with good fortune, to visit him if he becomes ill, to attend his funeral if he dies, not to make your house higher than his without his consent lest you deny him the breeze, to offer him fruit when you buy some or to take it to your home secretly if you do not do that, nor to send out your children with it so as not to upset his children, nor to bother him by the tempting smell of your food unless you send him some." The Scale of Wisdom, P.234/235 no.1308
Imam Ali (as) says: A person is either your brother in faith, or your equal in humanity.\
Islam and Neighbourhood (Neighborhood): Kindness to a Non-Muslim Neighbor
The neighbor holds a special status in Islam. Islam encourages Muslims to treat their neighbors in a gentle way that reflects the true and genuine spirit of Islam as exemplified in its tolerant aspect especially with people of other faiths. It makes no difference whether the neighbors are Muslim or non-Muslim. Ayesha, the Mother of the Believers, stated that she once asked Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), "O Messenger of Allah! I have two neighbors. To whom shall I send my gifts?" Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "To the one whose gate is nearer to you."

It is clear from the above Prophetic Hadith that Muslims are encouraged to not only treat our neighbors kindly, but also to exchange gifts with them. The wording of the Hadith does not indicate whether the one with whom we exchange gifts is a Muslim or not.
Below are ten tips on how to approach your non-Muslim neighbors in a kind way that exemplifies Islamic manners:

1. Being good to neighbors is not only restricted to those who share the same building with you. Your roommate at the dorm is your neighbor; the person sitting behind you or next to you in a bus or at a bus stop is your neighbor; the one sharing your office at work is your neighbor; the person enjoying fresh air next to you in a public garden is also a neighbor. You ought to treat all of those people kindly and socialize with them within the permitted scope of Shariah Islamic Law.

2. Introduce yourself and your family to your neighbors when you move into a new place or when new neighbors move in. This will also help to relieve any fears or tensions they may have about Muslims. Also, don't forget to say good-bye when you or they move away.

3. Care for them continually, especially at times of need and distress, as "the neighbor in need is a neighbor indeed." If a neighbor is elderly or chronically ill, offer to run errands or shop for him or her.

4. In dealing with neighbors, it is safer to deal with those of the same sex as yourself. This does not mean that you should stop socializing at work or school with your non-Muslim workmates or classmates of the opposite sex, but be aware of satanic snares. After-hours socializing should be with your same sex.

5. While socializing with non-Muslims, be cautious of becoming too lenient at the expense of your creed and principles. For example, don't go out drinking with them. They will respect you more for sticking to your principles than for breaking the rules.

6. In addition to sharing ideas, you can share meals with them by inviting them to dinner on the weekend or accepting their invitation to the same, provided that you let them know about your dietary restrictions (Halal and Haram) as a Muslim.

7. Conduct mutual visits so that the families can interact in a constructive way. If the discussion does turn to religion, focus on areas of common ground. For example, if your neighbors are Christian, then you should not enter into a futile argument with them about whether Jesus is God incarnate or not. Rather, tell them to what extent Islam honors all God's Prophets and Messengers as a whole, and that Jesus is granted a special status among God's Prophets and Messengers.

8. While socializing with neighbors, present your religion (Islam) in the best way. If you are faced with a difficult question or a distortion about Islam, do not be ashamed to stop for a while and tell them that you will try to contact a more knowledgeable person to seek the guidance regarding the issue raised. Thus, common grounds should be enhanced, and areas of dissension should never be raised.

9. If your neighbors show an interest in Islam, invite them to attend Islamic events, and even to accompany you to the mosque to see what it is like. It may be that their hearts become softened to Islam, and if they remain non-Muslim, at least you have succeeded in breaking the barrier. You can also visit the church where your neighbors pray if they invite you to do that, but here you should be cautious not to perform any act that your religion prohibits. In brief, be only a watchful monitor.

10. Always keep in mind the mighty reward that is in store for you in the Hereafter when you show kindness to a neighbor.
Rights of Neighbours (Neighbors): Neighbours in Islam (Neighborhood Story)

Friday, 19 April 2013




Rehana looked up from her cup of tea, and shook her head disapprovingly.

“How do I look, Azhar?” Tasneem, her 20-year-old daughter was asking her brother, as she made her way to the breakfast table.

“Fat,” giggled 14-year-old Azhar, returning to his plate of sausages and eggs.

“Fat is exactly what you are going to be, if you keep stuffing your face like that,” Tasneem retorted, admiring herself in the Defy oven.

Clad in her tightest pair of fitted blue jeans, beige clogs, and a transparent white cropped top, which barely covered her chest, let alone her tummy, Rehana thought her daughter looked…

“Disgusting.” She bit back her anger and tried to sound calm.

Tasneem shot her mother a furious look. “Who asked YOU? Why can’t you just leave me alone?”

“Tasneem, you make it seem as if I’m picking on you. But I’m not. At the end of the day my advice is only for your own -”

“Yes, yes, for my own good – save the speech for someone else Mummy. As you might have noticed, it was lost on me yesterday and the day before and the day before, so just put a lid on it now will you?”

Rehana shook her head again, at a loss for words. She looked in her husband’s direction, pleadingly. But he sat at the table, cup of coffee in one hand, newspaper in the other, engrossed in the sports pages. Perhaps he’s pretending, she thought. Like me he’s probably fed up with the endless arguments.

“I’ll be late, have evening lectures, so don’t ring me twenty thousand times, nagging me.”

Her daughter’s angry voice interrupted her thoughts. “Oh, so you aren’t going to eat now?”

Rehana suddenly noticed that Tasneem was slinging her campus bag over her shoulder, and making her way to the door. She motioned at her to sit down.

“No thanks – I’ve lost my appetite.”

“Gooood Fatty’s lost her appetite, she’ll get thinner now, and there’ll be more food for me…” Azhar sang, as he grabbed Tasneem’s plate.

“Shut up you little brat.”

“Tasneem.” Thankfully, this time, Iqbal did intervene. “Don’t be rude to your brother, he’s just joking. And listen to your mother and sit down. Unless of course you want your car to be taken away from you for a while.”

“Okay, okay, I hear you.” Tasneem grudgingly put her bag down, and pulled a chair opposite her mother.

Rehana smiled at her daughter. “I don’t mean to push you into doing anything you don’t want to do Tasneem. I’m not asking you to cover your face or anything like that. In fact, lately I haven’t even asked you to cover your hair. With the way you’ve been dressing lately, I’d be happy if you just wore longer tops and looser trousers.”

Tasneem sighed. “Look Mummy, we only live once. You had your fun – I’m not stupid.

 The whole family knows you and Daddy met at campus – and don’t tell me you were covering your hair then. So after having your fun, it’s very easy for you to sit back and preach to me.”

Tasneem, you are right, I only started covering my hair after you were born. And yes, I wasn’t a perfect Muslimah at campus – but don’t you see? I regret every minute of it, and that’s why I tried to encourage you to fear Allah from a tender age.”

“Fear of Allah is in the heart Mum. And you can’t judge what’s in my heart.”

Rehana nodded. “But at the same time, we have to project our fear of Allah on the outside too, Tasneem. And there’s a good reason we are instructed to dress modestly. 

Believe me Tasneem, you do want a boy to marry you for your inner beauty not for your body.”

Tasneem laughed heartily. “Mummmm, relax. I don’t have a boyfriend, and the last thing I’m thinking of right now is marriage. I just want to have fun, okay? Love you…See you later.” And with a frivolous peck on Rehana’s cheek, she was gone. Rehana put her cup of tea down. Once again her daughter had totally missed the point.

Iqbal smiled at her encouragingly. “At least you tried, Ray.” He shook his head sadly. “I gave up ages ago.”

“Oh, I won’t give up. We shouldn’t ever give up.”

“Tazzzzz – wow girlfriend, you look fantastic…” Aaliyah greeted Tasneem at the top of her voice, as they made their way to the campus cafeteria.

Tasneem giggled with delight. “Awww thanks. You look pretty cool yourself,” she said examining her friend’s new hairdo.

“Yeah, you two look great. I stayed up all night, studying for the Ecos test, no time to dress up this morning. I feel quite left out,” moaned Ayesha, rummaging through her bag, frantically searching for her mobile phone, which was bleeping away, signalling the arrival of a host of SMS-es.

“Ooooo Tazzz, look there’s Osama, checking you out again,” Aaliyah shrieked as they seated themselves at a table.

“Aaliyah don’t!” Tasneem rolled her eyes up in disgust.

“Hello? Am I missing something here? What are you two on about?” Ayesha tugged at Tasneem’s top.

Tasneem motioned in the direction of the table alongside theirs’. A heavily-bearded student, clad in a crisp white kurtaa, sat there, his face buried in a book.

“Is his name really Osama?” Ayesha asked.

“No silly…Aaliyah just calls him that, cos he’s always dressed in that garb and doing the Jumu’ah khutbahs.”

“Really?” Ayesha asked, interested. “So what does he talk about?”

“Oooo looks like you have competition Taz. Hands off Ayesh. He wants Taz.”

“Come on guys, I’m serious. What does he talk about?”

Aaliyah cleared her throat and waved her hand up in the air dramatically. “The temporary nature of this life…the frivolity and deception of youth…blah blah blah.”

“Okay, I’m definitely not interested.

Hey Tasneem, is he really into you? Did he like ask you out or something?”

“No way. Look at him, does he look the type?”

“Lower your voices,” Ayesha said. “I’m sure he can hear us.”

“Who cares if he does? Serves him right if he does -giving us Muslims a bad name, dressing like that, and always looking at the ground when he’s walking, as if his head is paralysed or something,” Tasneem replied, deliberately craning her neck and raising her voice.

For a fleeting moment, ‘Osama’ did look up, but he quickly returned to his book.

Aaliyah sniggered. “Well said Taz…Maybe you should be giving the Jumu’ah khutbahs.”

“Hey there’s someone who would look right at home, giving a Jumu’ah khutbah,” laughed Tasneem, revelling in their daily early morning session of juicy gossip. She pointed in the direction of the entrance, where a pretty girl, clad in a long-sleeved dress, and a neatly-tied scarf, was standing.

“Who is that Daadi-ma?” laughed Aaliyah.

“Come on girls, you’re just jealous, she’s actually very pretty,” said Ayesha.

This time ‘Osama’ definitely heard them. He looked up at the entrance and waved, a smile lighting up his serious expression. “Apaa, over here,” he called.

“What a strange name – ‘Apaa’.”

“Tazz. It’s not her name. It’s Urdu for ‘Big sister,’” Ayesha explained.

“Oh.” Tasneem’s voice reflected her disappointment. “His sister? And here I was thinking that maybe he wasn’t such a goody-goody after all.” She looked at her watch, and hurriedly stood up, detangling her bag from the back of the chair. She grabbed Aaliyah’s arm. “Come on., .we’d better make it for the English lecture now, if we want to catch an afternoon movie.”

“Yeah, okay.” Aaliyah followed her out of the cafeteria.

“What did you tell your Mum anyway?” Tasneem grinned.

“What else? The usual – evening lectures.”

Tasneem looked up at the sky, as she reversed out of the parking bay, It was a typically beautiful Durban day – ideal for the beach. Perhaps she should ring Aaliyah and Ayesha and tell them to meet her at Addington instead she thought, as she made her way out of the campus parking lot. “Nah, I don’t have my costume any way…” she said to herself. 

“Besides we’ve all been dying to watch this movie since it came out.” She turned on the radio, and smiled in delight as she recognised the familiar tune of Britney Spear’s latest hit, ‘Toxic’ She didn’t see him coming. There was a wave of white in front of her and a female screaming in the background as she slammed her foot on the breaks. It was too late.

“God, no,” Tasneem gasped, barely remembering to turn off the radio as she dragged herself out of the car. “Osama!” She was hysterical now, screaming incoherently and crying as she noticed the blood fast forming a puddle under him. “What have I done? No, no, no.” His sister was on the phone, trying to get medical assistance, her hand clutching her brother’s. “It’s my brother Sohail. We are on the main road outside Block B.”

Tasneem had seen someone die before. But looking at Sohail’s face, she realized that the death of that man, writhing and foaming after a drug overdose outside the night-club was very different to what she was witnessing now, Sohail’s face was serene, and he was smiling up at the sky.

“Sohail, I’m so s-orry,” she stammered. The smile didn’t leave his face.

Love Allah Sister,” he said, in that same gentle tone which marked his khutbahs. And then without their assistance, he recited the Kalimah three times, and closed his eyes.
Tasneem looked up at his sister, afraid. “I’m so sorry,” she said.

“It wasn’t your fault, sister.” The tears finally came. “Sohail was in a rush to get to the mosque for ‘Asr, and he really wasn’t looking where he was going. I tried to pull him back, but-” She was sobbing now.

“It’s the Will of Allah Subhanuhu wa Ta’ala you know sister, but he was my little brother, and we were close.”

Tasneem shuddered as she thought of podgy little Azhar, and what she would do if someone knocked him down. One thing was for sure – the last thing she would be saying was that it was ‘the Will of Allah Subhanuhu wa Ta’ala.’ With a sick feeling in her stomach she recalled her nasty words of that very morning – to her mother, to Azhar…and worst of all – in the cafeteria: “…giving us Muslims a bad name, dressing like that, and always looking at the ground when he’s walking, as if his head is paralysed or something…”\

“I’m so sorry Sohail,” she whispered again. Suddenly she felt naked. She made an attempt at pulling her flimsy top down towards her stomach, but failed miserably. Sohail’s sister, still crying, reached into her bag, and handed her a long black cardigan. The sounds of sirens approaching, Tasneem wore it hurriedly, her fingers quivering as she did the buttons.

She felt empty inside – I am giving them a bad name, she thought – Mummy and Daddy and Azhar, and Sohail and his sister…and Islam.. .I am giving them a bad name…

Rehana stroked her daughter’s hair, in an attempt to soothe her. It was well past midnight, but Tasneem lay on her bed, her eyes wide open, still visibly shaken from the events of the day. Iqbal came into the room, with a mug of hot chocolate. He kissed Tasneem on the forehead as he handed the mug to Rehana.

“I think you should sleep with her tonight,” he said. “Is she okay?”

Rehana nodded. “She’s going to be just fine.” As she put her daughter off to sleep, Rehana thought of the many events which had shaped her own character, and she remembered with certainty that not all of them were pleasant and happy events
Yet it was these very events which had brought her to where she was today: to wearing the hijab, to enrolling for the Islamic studies course, to Allah.. .to Allah…

May Allah Bless that little boy, she thought. In a day, in one sentence, he had managed, effortlessly, to succeed where she and Iqbal had not.

That evening, when Tasneem had appeared at the door, clutching the arm of a policewoman, her body wrapped in a cardigan, a scarf tied tightly around her neck, she had uttered the words which made Rehana realize the mistake she and Iqbal had been making, which made her remember how she had hated learning Qur’an as a little girl, because her madrasah teacher would hit her if she didn’t know her sabaq
“Mummy, mummy, I’m so sorry,” Tasneem had been hysterical. Holding on to Rehana, she had sobbed into her shoulder.
“Mummy, I killed a Muslim boy. But it was beautiful. I was scared. But he told me something before he died Mummy, something nobody had ever said to me before.

He said – he said, “Love Allah Sister.”

07:48 Unknown



Rehana looked up from her cup of tea, and shook her head disapprovingly.

“How do I look, Azhar?” Tasneem, her 20-year-old daughter was asking her brother, as she made her way to the breakfast table.

“Fat,” giggled 14-year-old Azhar, returning to his plate of sausages and eggs.

“Fat is exactly what you are going to be, if you keep stuffing your face like that,” Tasneem retorted, admiring herself in the Defy oven.

Clad in her tightest pair of fitted blue jeans, beige clogs, and a transparent white cropped top, which barely covered her chest, let alone her tummy, Rehana thought her daughter looked…

“Disgusting.” She bit back her anger and tried to sound calm.

Tasneem shot her mother a furious look. “Who asked YOU? Why can’t you just leave me alone?”

“Tasneem, you make it seem as if I’m picking on you. But I’m not. At the end of the day my advice is only for your own -”

“Yes, yes, for my own good – save the speech for someone else Mummy. As you might have noticed, it was lost on me yesterday and the day before and the day before, so just put a lid on it now will you?”

Rehana shook her head again, at a loss for words. She looked in her husband’s direction, pleadingly. But he sat at the table, cup of coffee in one hand, newspaper in the other, engrossed in the sports pages. Perhaps he’s pretending, she thought. Like me he’s probably fed up with the endless arguments.

“I’ll be late, have evening lectures, so don’t ring me twenty thousand times, nagging me.”

Her daughter’s angry voice interrupted her thoughts. “Oh, so you aren’t going to eat now?”

Rehana suddenly noticed that Tasneem was slinging her campus bag over her shoulder, and making her way to the door. She motioned at her to sit down.

“No thanks – I’ve lost my appetite.”

“Gooood Fatty’s lost her appetite, she’ll get thinner now, and there’ll be more food for me…” Azhar sang, as he grabbed Tasneem’s plate.

“Shut up you little brat.”

“Tasneem.” Thankfully, this time, Iqbal did intervene. “Don’t be rude to your brother, he’s just joking. And listen to your mother and sit down. Unless of course you want your car to be taken away from you for a while.”

“Okay, okay, I hear you.” Tasneem grudgingly put her bag down, and pulled a chair opposite her mother.

Rehana smiled at her daughter. “I don’t mean to push you into doing anything you don’t want to do Tasneem. I’m not asking you to cover your face or anything like that. In fact, lately I haven’t even asked you to cover your hair. With the way you’ve been dressing lately, I’d be happy if you just wore longer tops and looser trousers.”

Tasneem sighed. “Look Mummy, we only live once. You had your fun – I’m not stupid.

 The whole family knows you and Daddy met at campus – and don’t tell me you were covering your hair then. So after having your fun, it’s very easy for you to sit back and preach to me.”

Tasneem, you are right, I only started covering my hair after you were born. And yes, I wasn’t a perfect Muslimah at campus – but don’t you see? I regret every minute of it, and that’s why I tried to encourage you to fear Allah from a tender age.”

“Fear of Allah is in the heart Mum. And you can’t judge what’s in my heart.”

Rehana nodded. “But at the same time, we have to project our fear of Allah on the outside too, Tasneem. And there’s a good reason we are instructed to dress modestly. 

Believe me Tasneem, you do want a boy to marry you for your inner beauty not for your body.”

Tasneem laughed heartily. “Mummmm, relax. I don’t have a boyfriend, and the last thing I’m thinking of right now is marriage. I just want to have fun, okay? Love you…See you later.” And with a frivolous peck on Rehana’s cheek, she was gone. Rehana put her cup of tea down. Once again her daughter had totally missed the point.

Iqbal smiled at her encouragingly. “At least you tried, Ray.” He shook his head sadly. “I gave up ages ago.”

“Oh, I won’t give up. We shouldn’t ever give up.”

“Tazzzzz – wow girlfriend, you look fantastic…” Aaliyah greeted Tasneem at the top of her voice, as they made their way to the campus cafeteria.

Tasneem giggled with delight. “Awww thanks. You look pretty cool yourself,” she said examining her friend’s new hairdo.

“Yeah, you two look great. I stayed up all night, studying for the Ecos test, no time to dress up this morning. I feel quite left out,” moaned Ayesha, rummaging through her bag, frantically searching for her mobile phone, which was bleeping away, signalling the arrival of a host of SMS-es.

“Ooooo Tazzz, look there’s Osama, checking you out again,” Aaliyah shrieked as they seated themselves at a table.

“Aaliyah don’t!” Tasneem rolled her eyes up in disgust.

“Hello? Am I missing something here? What are you two on about?” Ayesha tugged at Tasneem’s top.

Tasneem motioned in the direction of the table alongside theirs’. A heavily-bearded student, clad in a crisp white kurtaa, sat there, his face buried in a book.

“Is his name really Osama?” Ayesha asked.

“No silly…Aaliyah just calls him that, cos he’s always dressed in that garb and doing the Jumu’ah khutbahs.”

“Really?” Ayesha asked, interested. “So what does he talk about?”

“Oooo looks like you have competition Taz. Hands off Ayesh. He wants Taz.”

“Come on guys, I’m serious. What does he talk about?”

Aaliyah cleared her throat and waved her hand up in the air dramatically. “The temporary nature of this life…the frivolity and deception of youth…blah blah blah.”

“Okay, I’m definitely not interested.

Hey Tasneem, is he really into you? Did he like ask you out or something?”

“No way. Look at him, does he look the type?”

“Lower your voices,” Ayesha said. “I’m sure he can hear us.”

“Who cares if he does? Serves him right if he does -giving us Muslims a bad name, dressing like that, and always looking at the ground when he’s walking, as if his head is paralysed or something,” Tasneem replied, deliberately craning her neck and raising her voice.

For a fleeting moment, ‘Osama’ did look up, but he quickly returned to his book.

Aaliyah sniggered. “Well said Taz…Maybe you should be giving the Jumu’ah khutbahs.”

“Hey there’s someone who would look right at home, giving a Jumu’ah khutbah,” laughed Tasneem, revelling in their daily early morning session of juicy gossip. She pointed in the direction of the entrance, where a pretty girl, clad in a long-sleeved dress, and a neatly-tied scarf, was standing.

“Who is that Daadi-ma?” laughed Aaliyah.

“Come on girls, you’re just jealous, she’s actually very pretty,” said Ayesha.

This time ‘Osama’ definitely heard them. He looked up at the entrance and waved, a smile lighting up his serious expression. “Apaa, over here,” he called.

“What a strange name – ‘Apaa’.”

“Tazz. It’s not her name. It’s Urdu for ‘Big sister,’” Ayesha explained.

“Oh.” Tasneem’s voice reflected her disappointment. “His sister? And here I was thinking that maybe he wasn’t such a goody-goody after all.” She looked at her watch, and hurriedly stood up, detangling her bag from the back of the chair. She grabbed Aaliyah’s arm. “Come on., .we’d better make it for the English lecture now, if we want to catch an afternoon movie.”

“Yeah, okay.” Aaliyah followed her out of the cafeteria.

“What did you tell your Mum anyway?” Tasneem grinned.

“What else? The usual – evening lectures.”

Tasneem looked up at the sky, as she reversed out of the parking bay, It was a typically beautiful Durban day – ideal for the beach. Perhaps she should ring Aaliyah and Ayesha and tell them to meet her at Addington instead she thought, as she made her way out of the campus parking lot. “Nah, I don’t have my costume any way…” she said to herself. 

“Besides we’ve all been dying to watch this movie since it came out.” She turned on the radio, and smiled in delight as she recognised the familiar tune of Britney Spear’s latest hit, ‘Toxic’ She didn’t see him coming. There was a wave of white in front of her and a female screaming in the background as she slammed her foot on the breaks. It was too late.

“God, no,” Tasneem gasped, barely remembering to turn off the radio as she dragged herself out of the car. “Osama!” She was hysterical now, screaming incoherently and crying as she noticed the blood fast forming a puddle under him. “What have I done? No, no, no.” His sister was on the phone, trying to get medical assistance, her hand clutching her brother’s. “It’s my brother Sohail. We are on the main road outside Block B.”

Tasneem had seen someone die before. But looking at Sohail’s face, she realized that the death of that man, writhing and foaming after a drug overdose outside the night-club was very different to what she was witnessing now, Sohail’s face was serene, and he was smiling up at the sky.

“Sohail, I’m so s-orry,” she stammered. The smile didn’t leave his face.

Love Allah Sister,” he said, in that same gentle tone which marked his khutbahs. And then without their assistance, he recited the Kalimah three times, and closed his eyes.
Tasneem looked up at his sister, afraid. “I’m so sorry,” she said.

“It wasn’t your fault, sister.” The tears finally came. “Sohail was in a rush to get to the mosque for ‘Asr, and he really wasn’t looking where he was going. I tried to pull him back, but-” She was sobbing now.

“It’s the Will of Allah Subhanuhu wa Ta’ala you know sister, but he was my little brother, and we were close.”

Tasneem shuddered as she thought of podgy little Azhar, and what she would do if someone knocked him down. One thing was for sure – the last thing she would be saying was that it was ‘the Will of Allah Subhanuhu wa Ta’ala.’ With a sick feeling in her stomach she recalled her nasty words of that very morning – to her mother, to Azhar…and worst of all – in the cafeteria: “…giving us Muslims a bad name, dressing like that, and always looking at the ground when he’s walking, as if his head is paralysed or something…”\

“I’m so sorry Sohail,” she whispered again. Suddenly she felt naked. She made an attempt at pulling her flimsy top down towards her stomach, but failed miserably. Sohail’s sister, still crying, reached into her bag, and handed her a long black cardigan. The sounds of sirens approaching, Tasneem wore it hurriedly, her fingers quivering as she did the buttons.

She felt empty inside – I am giving them a bad name, she thought – Mummy and Daddy and Azhar, and Sohail and his sister…and Islam.. .I am giving them a bad name…

Rehana stroked her daughter’s hair, in an attempt to soothe her. It was well past midnight, but Tasneem lay on her bed, her eyes wide open, still visibly shaken from the events of the day. Iqbal came into the room, with a mug of hot chocolate. He kissed Tasneem on the forehead as he handed the mug to Rehana.

“I think you should sleep with her tonight,” he said. “Is she okay?”

Rehana nodded. “She’s going to be just fine.” As she put her daughter off to sleep, Rehana thought of the many events which had shaped her own character, and she remembered with certainty that not all of them were pleasant and happy events
Yet it was these very events which had brought her to where she was today: to wearing the hijab, to enrolling for the Islamic studies course, to Allah.. .to Allah…

May Allah Bless that little boy, she thought. In a day, in one sentence, he had managed, effortlessly, to succeed where she and Iqbal had not.

That evening, when Tasneem had appeared at the door, clutching the arm of a policewoman, her body wrapped in a cardigan, a scarf tied tightly around her neck, she had uttered the words which made Rehana realize the mistake she and Iqbal had been making, which made her remember how she had hated learning Qur’an as a little girl, because her madrasah teacher would hit her if she didn’t know her sabaq
“Mummy, mummy, I’m so sorry,” Tasneem had been hysterical. Holding on to Rehana, she had sobbed into her shoulder.
“Mummy, I killed a Muslim boy. But it was beautiful. I was scared. But he told me something before he died Mummy, something nobody had ever said to me before.

He said – he said, “Love Allah Sister.”

Wednesday, 17 April 2013

 
Sometimes when you can't trust people with your life,
All you need to do is just trust Allah with His judgement.
Every scene of your life that plays out has a Witness Who is the Judge Himself.
So don't doubt that any crime will go without justice.
People who are out to harm you are harming themselves.
It's just that they don't realize it, Yet.
It is only Allah who controls the Universe and both good and bad are His decree.
 The significant element that should always be kept in mind is the omnipotence of Allah (swt).
 Therefore our actions and the material resources available to us do not guarantee the outcome of any of our undertakings. For example our material and physical strength may deceive us into believing that victory in a battlefield is inevitable
. The truth is that our strength or weakness has no bearing on the outcome of the battle, and it is only by the will of Allah that we become victorious or get defeated by the enemy. It was this firm belief that lead a handful of Muslims during and after the time of the Prophet (saw) to fight so valiantly against a formidable enemy over and over again.
One may ask, why then do we strive to accomplish any task if we cannot influence its outcome? The answer is rather simple. The actions that we take fall into three categories: 

They are either obligated upon us by Allah (swt), recommended by Him or we are simply allowed to do them. The obligatory actions are taken because Allah (swt) has ordered them as compulsory. The recommended actions are taken to be rewarded in addition to the rewards we get upon accomplishing the fard. In both of these cases we seek to please Allah (swt), Actions falling under the third category are taken to achieve certain objectives we anticipate to fulfil. However, the certainty of accomplishing those objectives is not under our control. Therefore the cause of initiating any action is not whether we control its outcome. It is the anticipated goal we aim to achieve.

This brings us to an important misconception amongst the Muslims where some of the associate effort with having trust in Allah (swt). For example, it is a popular notion that earning provides rizq and Tawakkul in Allah (swt) should come after one has made a sincere effort to earn a living. Some of the Muslims who hold such a view often present the following Hadith in their defence:


A man came to the Prophet (saw) and said, “I will not tie my camel and trust in Allah” The Prophet (saw) said, ‘Tie it and trust in Allah.’
This Hadith does not indicate any prerequisite for trusting Allah (swt). It does not, therefore suggest that somehow there is a link between people tying the camel (an action) and putting ones trust in Allah (swt). However, the Hadith conveys an important lesson to all of us: That while trust in Allah (swt) is absolute being independent of what we do it is our responsibility to act on what we intended to accomplish. In this case tying the camel was a right thing to do if the person feared that the camel would run away. Therefore he should have taken the precaution regardless of his trust in Allah (swt). Tying the camel does not take away from his trust in Allah (swt), irrespective of our efforts and the circumstances surrounding us.

This belief should help us to this life according to the commands of Allah (swt) even if we face hardships in doing so. Disappointment, hopelessness should not daunt us because we have put our trust in Allah (swt), our Creator and the only Sustainer. Many Muslims indulge in the prohibited actions arguing that it is the only alternative; otherwise they would face 
 disastrous consequences. Avid example is giving riba when buying a house on a mortgage. They regard owning a house as a necessity and we are willing to sacrifice Islam in doing so.
They fail to realise that it is only Allah (swt) who provides security for them and their off springs and they need only to put their absolute trust in Him.

Unfortunately the materialistic thought that we have acquired from the Kuffar who depend on material gains for their very survival, has drastically influenced our view towards this life as well… we take pride in our wealth and what we do, and have displaced the trust in Allah (swt) by relying solely on material possessions. May Allah (swt) restore only trust in Him for only then can we truly succeed
 
08:28 Unknown
 
Sometimes when you can't trust people with your life,
All you need to do is just trust Allah with His judgement.
Every scene of your life that plays out has a Witness Who is the Judge Himself.
So don't doubt that any crime will go without justice.
People who are out to harm you are harming themselves.
It's just that they don't realize it, Yet.
It is only Allah who controls the Universe and both good and bad are His decree.
 The significant element that should always be kept in mind is the omnipotence of Allah (swt).
 Therefore our actions and the material resources available to us do not guarantee the outcome of any of our undertakings. For example our material and physical strength may deceive us into believing that victory in a battlefield is inevitable
. The truth is that our strength or weakness has no bearing on the outcome of the battle, and it is only by the will of Allah that we become victorious or get defeated by the enemy. It was this firm belief that lead a handful of Muslims during and after the time of the Prophet (saw) to fight so valiantly against a formidable enemy over and over again.
One may ask, why then do we strive to accomplish any task if we cannot influence its outcome? The answer is rather simple. The actions that we take fall into three categories: 

They are either obligated upon us by Allah (swt), recommended by Him or we are simply allowed to do them. The obligatory actions are taken because Allah (swt) has ordered them as compulsory. The recommended actions are taken to be rewarded in addition to the rewards we get upon accomplishing the fard. In both of these cases we seek to please Allah (swt), Actions falling under the third category are taken to achieve certain objectives we anticipate to fulfil. However, the certainty of accomplishing those objectives is not under our control. Therefore the cause of initiating any action is not whether we control its outcome. It is the anticipated goal we aim to achieve.

This brings us to an important misconception amongst the Muslims where some of the associate effort with having trust in Allah (swt). For example, it is a popular notion that earning provides rizq and Tawakkul in Allah (swt) should come after one has made a sincere effort to earn a living. Some of the Muslims who hold such a view often present the following Hadith in their defence:


A man came to the Prophet (saw) and said, “I will not tie my camel and trust in Allah” The Prophet (saw) said, ‘Tie it and trust in Allah.’
This Hadith does not indicate any prerequisite for trusting Allah (swt). It does not, therefore suggest that somehow there is a link between people tying the camel (an action) and putting ones trust in Allah (swt). However, the Hadith conveys an important lesson to all of us: That while trust in Allah (swt) is absolute being independent of what we do it is our responsibility to act on what we intended to accomplish. In this case tying the camel was a right thing to do if the person feared that the camel would run away. Therefore he should have taken the precaution regardless of his trust in Allah (swt). Tying the camel does not take away from his trust in Allah (swt), irrespective of our efforts and the circumstances surrounding us.

This belief should help us to this life according to the commands of Allah (swt) even if we face hardships in doing so. Disappointment, hopelessness should not daunt us because we have put our trust in Allah (swt), our Creator and the only Sustainer. Many Muslims indulge in the prohibited actions arguing that it is the only alternative; otherwise they would face 
 disastrous consequences. Avid example is giving riba when buying a house on a mortgage. They regard owning a house as a necessity and we are willing to sacrifice Islam in doing so.
They fail to realise that it is only Allah (swt) who provides security for them and their off springs and they need only to put their absolute trust in Him.

Unfortunately the materialistic thought that we have acquired from the Kuffar who depend on material gains for their very survival, has drastically influenced our view towards this life as well… we take pride in our wealth and what we do, and have displaced the trust in Allah (swt) by relying solely on material possessions. May Allah (swt) restore only trust in Him for only then can we truly succeed
 
 
When you speak to Allah, don’t be embarrassed to tell Him anything. The most beautiful thing is that He Knows what you are about to tell Him and yet He still listens. (‘Aa’id al-Qarni)
Beautify your Patiencs With Silence,Supplication And Tears

"Allah does not impose a duty but to the extent of its ability; for it is (the benefit of) what is has earned and upon it (the evil of) what it has wrought: Our Lord! Do not punish us if we forget or make a mistake; Our Lord! Do not lay on us a burden as Thou did lay on those before us, Our Lord do not impose upon us that which we have not the strength to bear; and pardon us and grant us protection and have mercy on us, You are our Patron, so help us against the unbelieving people."
Al-Baqarah, 2:286



Allah knows that you are feeling lonely
.
Allah knows that you are worried about the future.


  • Allah knows that you are struggling with your studies.

  • Allah knows that your family is giving you a hard time.

  • Allah knows that your friends are upsetting you.

  • Allah knows of your monetary problems.

  • Allah knows everything that you are going through. 

  • And Allah knows the answer to all of your problems.
  •  
Therefore pray hard and strengthen your Imaan for Allah is the best Helper.


08:14 Unknown
 
When you speak to Allah, don’t be embarrassed to tell Him anything. The most beautiful thing is that He Knows what you are about to tell Him and yet He still listens. (‘Aa’id al-Qarni)
Beautify your Patiencs With Silence,Supplication And Tears

"Allah does not impose a duty but to the extent of its ability; for it is (the benefit of) what is has earned and upon it (the evil of) what it has wrought: Our Lord! Do not punish us if we forget or make a mistake; Our Lord! Do not lay on us a burden as Thou did lay on those before us, Our Lord do not impose upon us that which we have not the strength to bear; and pardon us and grant us protection and have mercy on us, You are our Patron, so help us against the unbelieving people."
Al-Baqarah, 2:286



Allah knows that you are feeling lonely
.
Allah knows that you are worried about the future.


  • Allah knows that you are struggling with your studies.

  • Allah knows that your family is giving you a hard time.

  • Allah knows that your friends are upsetting you.

  • Allah knows of your monetary problems.

  • Allah knows everything that you are going through. 

  • And Allah knows the answer to all of your problems.
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Therefore pray hard and strengthen your Imaan for Allah is the best Helper.


Monday, 15 April 2013

Humans are social creatures by nature; they're always in need of friends and companions. Most of our lives depend on interaction with others. Strong individuals are the core of a strong community, something that Muslims should always strive for. We all know that Allah (SWT) the Most High has brought us to life in order to test us. Thus we are here for a relatively short period of time and that we shall meet Allah (SWT) one Day, so we need to use our present life for what is best for us in the hereafter. Once we know our purpose and our goal in life, we should seek ways to achieve them so as to benefit our own selves.
In an authentic Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said: "Man is influenced by the faith of his friends. Therefore, be careful of whom you associate with."
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) who has the most noble character and dealings with fellow humans gave us a very clear and simple message and advice in regard to friendship.
How should we choose our friends? We should choose the friend that believes and abide by our religion (Islam) and gives great respect to what Allah (SWT) and Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) has ordered us. And we should stay away from that who is not well mannered and gives no attention to what Islam is about or what pleases or displeases Allah (SWT), for he will surely affect us negatively. There is no good in the companion drowns us in sins and displeasing Allah (SWT)

In another Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said: "The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him."

When choosing our friends we should ask ourselves first: Are they going to help us achieve the purpose for which we were brought to life? Or will they take us away from it? Will they desire for us Allah (SWT)'s pleasure or is that completely irrelevant to them and not their concern at all? Are they leading us to Paradise or to the Hell?
Islam and friendship: Islamic Sayings on Friendship or Friendship Sayings (Friendship Stories)
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) stated, "The believer is like a mirror to other believers (in truthfulness)." Like a mirror, your friend gives you an honest image. He forgives your mistakes, but does not hide or exaggerate your strengths and weaknesses.
Once the Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) was asked, "What person can be the best friend?" "He who helps you remember Allah (SWT), and reminds you when you forget Him," the Prophet Mohammad (pbuh), counseled.
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) was further asked, "Who is the best among people?" Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) replied, "He who, when you look at him, you remember Allah (SWT)". Such a friend reflects qualities of love, mercy, honesty, service, patience, optimism, professionalism, and the entire lifestyle taught by Islam.
Imam Ali (as) Says: "The poor is one who does not have any friend."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Live amongst people in such a manner that if you die they weep over you and if you are alive they crave for your company (friendship)."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Friendship transfers a stranger in to a relative."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Do not choose as your friend the enemy of your friend."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Two true friends are a single soul in different bodies."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "He who discards a friend for slight offence risks loneliness."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "In time of distress a man can distinguished between his friend and enemy."
Imam Jafar Sadiq (as) Says: "Be careful to have truthful friends and try to obtain them, for they are your support when you are in welfare, and your advocator when you have misfortune."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Be not friend with a fool, for he will harm you while meaning to do good to you."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "It is better to listen to a wise enemy than to seek counsel from a foolish friend."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Keep away from friendship of liar surely he will show you as near what is far from you and will show as far what is near you."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "O' Kumayl! Say what is just in any condition. Be friends with the righteous and avoid the evil doers, stay away from the hypocrites and do not accompany the treacherous."
Imam Sajjad (as) Says: "Beware of the companionship of the sinful, and helping of the unjust."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "If a friend envies you, then he is not a true friend."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Verily, there are three (types of) friends for a Muslim,
  • The friend who says: I am with you whether you are alive or dead', and this is his deed.
  • The friend who says: I am with you unto the threshold of your grave and then I will leave you', and this is his children.
  • The friend who says: I will be with you until when you die', and this is his wealth which will belong to the inheritors when he dies."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "He who is deserted by friends and relatives will often find help and sympathy from strangers."
Imam Hassan (as) Says: "Befriend people in the same manner you would like them to befriend you."
Imam Jafar Sadiq (as) Says: "Be the friend of him who may grace you, not of one whom you are better than." (Viz. make friends with ones who are higher than you so that you progress.)
Imam Jafar Sadiq (as) Says: "My most beloved brother is he who (makes me aware of) my faults."
Imam Hassan Askari (as) Says: "Those who advise their friend secretly are respecting them, and those who advise them openly are humiliating them."
Imam Jafar Sadiq (as) has narrated from his father Imam Muhammad Baqir (as) who said his father Imam Sajjad (as) stated: "O' my son! Beware of five (groups) and do not seek companionship (friendship) with them, do not speak with them, and do not make friends with them on (the) way."
Then, Imam Muhammad Baqir (as) asked his father who they were and might he introduces them to him. Imam Sajjad (as) responded:
  • "Beware of and do not associate with the one who tells lies. He is as a mirage which makes near for you what is far, and makes far to you what is near."
  • "Beware of and do not associate with an immoral person, because he will sell you at the price of a morsel or less than that."
  • "Beware of and do not associate with a miser because he will deprive you of his wealth when you are seriously in need of it."
  • "Beware of and do not associate with a fool, because he wants to be of avail to you but he harms you."
  • "Beware of and do not associate with the one who disregards his kinfolks, because I found him (such a person) cursed in the Book Allah, Almighty and Glorious, in three occurrences." They are: (Sura Al-Baqarah, 2:27; Sura Ar-Rad, 13:25; and Sura Muhammad, 47:22).
Islam and friendship: The Bear and the Two Friends (Islam and Companion, Friendship Story)
Two friends were traveling together, when a Bear suddenly met them on their path. One of them climbed up quickly into a tree and concealed himself in the branches. The other, seeing that he must be attacked, fell flat on the ground, and when the Bear came up and felt him with his snout, and smelt him all over, he held his breath, and feigned the appearance of death as much as he could. The Bear soon left him, for it is said he will not touch a dead body. When the Bear was quite gone, the other friend descended from the tree, and jokingly inquired of his friend what it was the Bear had whispered in his ear. "He gave me this advice," his companion replied. "Never travel with a friend who deserts you at the approach of danger."

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.
The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?" The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.
Friendship for Allah's Sake: How To Be a Friend for the Sake of Allah (SWT)
"Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken such-and-such as a friend!" Noble Qur'an (25:28)
The one who is always there to console you when you want to talk about a problem, the one who sticks by you through thick and thin, the one whom you can count on to be there for you - this is the person who leaves no doubts in your mind that he or she is your "best friend". You like each other's company and love to spend time together. If something important happens in your life, they're the first to know. You trust them and depend upon them in times of need. They may be a classmate, a colleague, a neighbor, a sister, a mother; or even your spouse! It could be anyone who fits this description.
But are they really your "true" friend? How can you find out? Ask yourself: are they taking you towards the most certain and perpetual success and benefit: that of the Hereafter, or are they going to be the cause of regret for you on the Day of Judgment? See for yourself. Here is a checklist.
When in each other's company, you both:
  1. Comfortably backbite and make fun of people. Pass comments about others.
  2. Laugh at others together, be it a passerby or someone you are discussing.
  3. Call each other demeaning names in fun. Laugh at each other's cruel jokes about someone else.
  4. Start a conversation with "Hi instead of Salaam" and plunge into an exchange of the latest gossip.
  5. Hardly ever mention or discuss Allah (SWT), Noble Qur'an, Ahlul Bayt or Hadith in the time spent together.
  6. Feel hesitant to discuss religion, unless it is a criticism of any aspect of Islam.
  7. Confirm each other's doubts about the Hereafter.
  8. Get involved in activities that delay/do away with salaah (Islamic Prayer), the major obligation from Allah (SWT). Have never prayed any salaah together.
  9. Support each other in fulfilling every desire - a dress that caught your fancy, or the in-fashion shoes, even if they are not needed. End up spending money on things you don't need.
  10. Discuss unimportant things and events in meticulous detail, such as a film, the latest clothes you got tailored, or a wedding party you attended.
  11. Never point out each other's faults politely; if one does, the other quickly changes the subject or gets defensive.
Besides the above points, you both are fully aware of each other's family's and in-laws' faults and short-comings. When one of you feels guilty about having committed a sin, the other quickly offers reassurance that "It's no big deal, everyone does it", and comes up with convincing excuses for the other not to feel guilty about it. When one of you starts doing something that is impermissible in Islam, the other offers support and help; for example, when one starts to backbite, the other becomes attentive and listens closely. When one discovers a shortcoming of the other, they leave no chance to make fun of it.
About a 'friendship' that has most of the above characteristics, Allah (SWT) says in the Noble Quran:

"Friends on that day will be foes to one and another - except the Righteous Ones." Noble Qur'an (43:67)
All such "friends" will, on the Day of Judgment, become each other's enemies, each lamenting and blaming the other before Allah (SWT), for having supported and encouraged them towards the ultimate and eternal destruction. Allah (SWT) makes an exception to this situation in the Qur'anic verse above: "except those who are al-muttaqeen: the righteous ones". So who are these 'righteous ones', who will be happily together in the Hereafter just as they were together in the world? How can you tell whether your friend is really and truly your sincere "friend"? Here is another checklist of characteristics that depict a friendship that will lead to success in the Hereafter.
When together, you both:
  1. Remind each other of Allah (SWT) when you set eyes on each other.
  2. Leave each other's company with a higher level of imaan [faith in Allah (SWT)].
  3. Inevitably start the conversation with the Islamic greeting 'As-Salaamu Alaykum', and receive the masnoon reply for it.
  4. Do the masnoon mu'aanaqah (hug) and musafahah (handshake) on a regular basis.
  5. Almost always mention Allah (SWT), Noble Qur'an, Ahlul Bayt or Hadith in some context or the other, in your conversations.
  6. Strengthen each other's belief on the Hereafter. Give each other more duaa's (well wishes) than material gifts.
  7. Always end up exchanging useful and mature ideas and thoughts. Love each other above and beyond worldly benefits.
  8. Attend religious study-circles/ halaqah's together. Have prayed salaah together many times.
  9. Have watched each other cry, out of fear of Allah (SWT) or out of regret for committing a transgression.
  10. Listen attentively if the other is saying something that pleases Allah (SWT).
  11. Politely point out and reform each other's mistakes or bad habits in the best way possible.
  12. Return an Amanah (item placed in other's trust/safekeeping) belonging to the other in its original state.
  13. Smile together, but with decent, non-malicious humor. Enquire regularly about the health of the other's family.
  14. Become uninterested and change the subject if the other starts to say something that is impermissible.
  15. Always discourage the other if they plan to do something wrong.
  16. Always encourage the other if they intend to do a good deed that they're hesitant to do.
  17. Consult each other in important matters. Give each other advice seriously and sincerely.
  18. Never waste each other's time in useless activities. Never invite the other to a place or gathering of sin.
  19. Have full trust that they will never reveal secrets or personal problems to others, nor will they gossip about you behind your back.
  20. Address each other in a respectful and loving manner. Forgive each other's faults and shortcomings, and hide them from others.
Those whose friendships possess most of the above characteristics are among the fortunate people who can experience a glimpse of the assembly of Paradise in the life of this world itself, where they have such sincere and true friends - friends who love them for the sake of Allah (SWT). It is they who shall be saved from all kinds of discomfort and pain on the Day of Judgment when their Lord will provide them with a special place, as per His promise.
10:41 Unknown
Humans are social creatures by nature; they're always in need of friends and companions. Most of our lives depend on interaction with others. Strong individuals are the core of a strong community, something that Muslims should always strive for. We all know that Allah (SWT) the Most High has brought us to life in order to test us. Thus we are here for a relatively short period of time and that we shall meet Allah (SWT) one Day, so we need to use our present life for what is best for us in the hereafter. Once we know our purpose and our goal in life, we should seek ways to achieve them so as to benefit our own selves.
In an authentic Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said: "Man is influenced by the faith of his friends. Therefore, be careful of whom you associate with."
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) who has the most noble character and dealings with fellow humans gave us a very clear and simple message and advice in regard to friendship.
How should we choose our friends? We should choose the friend that believes and abide by our religion (Islam) and gives great respect to what Allah (SWT) and Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) has ordered us. And we should stay away from that who is not well mannered and gives no attention to what Islam is about or what pleases or displeases Allah (SWT), for he will surely affect us negatively. There is no good in the companion drowns us in sins and displeasing Allah (SWT)

In another Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said: "The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him."

When choosing our friends we should ask ourselves first: Are they going to help us achieve the purpose for which we were brought to life? Or will they take us away from it? Will they desire for us Allah (SWT)'s pleasure or is that completely irrelevant to them and not their concern at all? Are they leading us to Paradise or to the Hell?
Islam and friendship: Islamic Sayings on Friendship or Friendship Sayings (Friendship Stories)
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) stated, "The believer is like a mirror to other believers (in truthfulness)." Like a mirror, your friend gives you an honest image. He forgives your mistakes, but does not hide or exaggerate your strengths and weaknesses.
Once the Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) was asked, "What person can be the best friend?" "He who helps you remember Allah (SWT), and reminds you when you forget Him," the Prophet Mohammad (pbuh), counseled.
Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) was further asked, "Who is the best among people?" Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) replied, "He who, when you look at him, you remember Allah (SWT)". Such a friend reflects qualities of love, mercy, honesty, service, patience, optimism, professionalism, and the entire lifestyle taught by Islam.
Imam Ali (as) Says: "The poor is one who does not have any friend."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Live amongst people in such a manner that if you die they weep over you and if you are alive they crave for your company (friendship)."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Friendship transfers a stranger in to a relative."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Do not choose as your friend the enemy of your friend."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Two true friends are a single soul in different bodies."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "He who discards a friend for slight offence risks loneliness."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "In time of distress a man can distinguished between his friend and enemy."
Imam Jafar Sadiq (as) Says: "Be careful to have truthful friends and try to obtain them, for they are your support when you are in welfare, and your advocator when you have misfortune."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Be not friend with a fool, for he will harm you while meaning to do good to you."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "It is better to listen to a wise enemy than to seek counsel from a foolish friend."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Keep away from friendship of liar surely he will show you as near what is far from you and will show as far what is near you."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "O' Kumayl! Say what is just in any condition. Be friends with the righteous and avoid the evil doers, stay away from the hypocrites and do not accompany the treacherous."
Imam Sajjad (as) Says: "Beware of the companionship of the sinful, and helping of the unjust."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "If a friend envies you, then he is not a true friend."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "Verily, there are three (types of) friends for a Muslim,
  • The friend who says: I am with you whether you are alive or dead', and this is his deed.
  • The friend who says: I am with you unto the threshold of your grave and then I will leave you', and this is his children.
  • The friend who says: I will be with you until when you die', and this is his wealth which will belong to the inheritors when he dies."
Imam Ali (as) Says: "He who is deserted by friends and relatives will often find help and sympathy from strangers."
Imam Hassan (as) Says: "Befriend people in the same manner you would like them to befriend you."
Imam Jafar Sadiq (as) Says: "Be the friend of him who may grace you, not of one whom you are better than." (Viz. make friends with ones who are higher than you so that you progress.)
Imam Jafar Sadiq (as) Says: "My most beloved brother is he who (makes me aware of) my faults."
Imam Hassan Askari (as) Says: "Those who advise their friend secretly are respecting them, and those who advise them openly are humiliating them."
Imam Jafar Sadiq (as) has narrated from his father Imam Muhammad Baqir (as) who said his father Imam Sajjad (as) stated: "O' my son! Beware of five (groups) and do not seek companionship (friendship) with them, do not speak with them, and do not make friends with them on (the) way."
Then, Imam Muhammad Baqir (as) asked his father who they were and might he introduces them to him. Imam Sajjad (as) responded:
  • "Beware of and do not associate with the one who tells lies. He is as a mirage which makes near for you what is far, and makes far to you what is near."
  • "Beware of and do not associate with an immoral person, because he will sell you at the price of a morsel or less than that."
  • "Beware of and do not associate with a miser because he will deprive you of his wealth when you are seriously in need of it."
  • "Beware of and do not associate with a fool, because he wants to be of avail to you but he harms you."
  • "Beware of and do not associate with the one who disregards his kinfolks, because I found him (such a person) cursed in the Book Allah, Almighty and Glorious, in three occurrences." They are: (Sura Al-Baqarah, 2:27; Sura Ar-Rad, 13:25; and Sura Muhammad, 47:22).
Islam and friendship: The Bear and the Two Friends (Islam and Companion, Friendship Story)
Two friends were traveling together, when a Bear suddenly met them on their path. One of them climbed up quickly into a tree and concealed himself in the branches. The other, seeing that he must be attacked, fell flat on the ground, and when the Bear came up and felt him with his snout, and smelt him all over, he held his breath, and feigned the appearance of death as much as he could. The Bear soon left him, for it is said he will not touch a dead body. When the Bear was quite gone, the other friend descended from the tree, and jokingly inquired of his friend what it was the Bear had whispered in his ear. "He gave me this advice," his companion replied. "Never travel with a friend who deserts you at the approach of danger."

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.
The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?" The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.
Friendship for Allah's Sake: How To Be a Friend for the Sake of Allah (SWT)
"Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken such-and-such as a friend!" Noble Qur'an (25:28)
The one who is always there to console you when you want to talk about a problem, the one who sticks by you through thick and thin, the one whom you can count on to be there for you - this is the person who leaves no doubts in your mind that he or she is your "best friend". You like each other's company and love to spend time together. If something important happens in your life, they're the first to know. You trust them and depend upon them in times of need. They may be a classmate, a colleague, a neighbor, a sister, a mother; or even your spouse! It could be anyone who fits this description.
But are they really your "true" friend? How can you find out? Ask yourself: are they taking you towards the most certain and perpetual success and benefit: that of the Hereafter, or are they going to be the cause of regret for you on the Day of Judgment? See for yourself. Here is a checklist.
When in each other's company, you both:
  1. Comfortably backbite and make fun of people. Pass comments about others.
  2. Laugh at others together, be it a passerby or someone you are discussing.
  3. Call each other demeaning names in fun. Laugh at each other's cruel jokes about someone else.
  4. Start a conversation with "Hi instead of Salaam" and plunge into an exchange of the latest gossip.
  5. Hardly ever mention or discuss Allah (SWT), Noble Qur'an, Ahlul Bayt or Hadith in the time spent together.
  6. Feel hesitant to discuss religion, unless it is a criticism of any aspect of Islam.
  7. Confirm each other's doubts about the Hereafter.
  8. Get involved in activities that delay/do away with salaah (Islamic Prayer), the major obligation from Allah (SWT). Have never prayed any salaah together.
  9. Support each other in fulfilling every desire - a dress that caught your fancy, or the in-fashion shoes, even if they are not needed. End up spending money on things you don't need.
  10. Discuss unimportant things and events in meticulous detail, such as a film, the latest clothes you got tailored, or a wedding party you attended.
  11. Never point out each other's faults politely; if one does, the other quickly changes the subject or gets defensive.
Besides the above points, you both are fully aware of each other's family's and in-laws' faults and short-comings. When one of you feels guilty about having committed a sin, the other quickly offers reassurance that "It's no big deal, everyone does it", and comes up with convincing excuses for the other not to feel guilty about it. When one of you starts doing something that is impermissible in Islam, the other offers support and help; for example, when one starts to backbite, the other becomes attentive and listens closely. When one discovers a shortcoming of the other, they leave no chance to make fun of it.
About a 'friendship' that has most of the above characteristics, Allah (SWT) says in the Noble Quran:

"Friends on that day will be foes to one and another - except the Righteous Ones." Noble Qur'an (43:67)
All such "friends" will, on the Day of Judgment, become each other's enemies, each lamenting and blaming the other before Allah (SWT), for having supported and encouraged them towards the ultimate and eternal destruction. Allah (SWT) makes an exception to this situation in the Qur'anic verse above: "except those who are al-muttaqeen: the righteous ones". So who are these 'righteous ones', who will be happily together in the Hereafter just as they were together in the world? How can you tell whether your friend is really and truly your sincere "friend"? Here is another checklist of characteristics that depict a friendship that will lead to success in the Hereafter.
When together, you both:
  1. Remind each other of Allah (SWT) when you set eyes on each other.
  2. Leave each other's company with a higher level of imaan [faith in Allah (SWT)].
  3. Inevitably start the conversation with the Islamic greeting 'As-Salaamu Alaykum', and receive the masnoon reply for it.
  4. Do the masnoon mu'aanaqah (hug) and musafahah (handshake) on a regular basis.
  5. Almost always mention Allah (SWT), Noble Qur'an, Ahlul Bayt or Hadith in some context or the other, in your conversations.
  6. Strengthen each other's belief on the Hereafter. Give each other more duaa's (well wishes) than material gifts.
  7. Always end up exchanging useful and mature ideas and thoughts. Love each other above and beyond worldly benefits.
  8. Attend religious study-circles/ halaqah's together. Have prayed salaah together many times.
  9. Have watched each other cry, out of fear of Allah (SWT) or out of regret for committing a transgression.
  10. Listen attentively if the other is saying something that pleases Allah (SWT).
  11. Politely point out and reform each other's mistakes or bad habits in the best way possible.
  12. Return an Amanah (item placed in other's trust/safekeeping) belonging to the other in its original state.
  13. Smile together, but with decent, non-malicious humor. Enquire regularly about the health of the other's family.
  14. Become uninterested and change the subject if the other starts to say something that is impermissible.
  15. Always discourage the other if they plan to do something wrong.
  16. Always encourage the other if they intend to do a good deed that they're hesitant to do.
  17. Consult each other in important matters. Give each other advice seriously and sincerely.
  18. Never waste each other's time in useless activities. Never invite the other to a place or gathering of sin.
  19. Have full trust that they will never reveal secrets or personal problems to others, nor will they gossip about you behind your back.
  20. Address each other in a respectful and loving manner. Forgive each other's faults and shortcomings, and hide them from others.
Those whose friendships possess most of the above characteristics are among the fortunate people who can experience a glimpse of the assembly of Paradise in the life of this world itself, where they have such sincere and true friends - friends who love them for the sake of Allah (SWT). It is they who shall be saved from all kinds of discomfort and pain on the Day of Judgment when their Lord will provide them with a special place, as per His promise.

Saturday, 13 April 2013


Bismillahirrahmanirraheem

NAMAZ E FAJR KI SUNNAT AUR FARZ:

SAWAAL:

Namaz-e-Fajar ke 2 sunnat hain aor 2 Faraz hain, ya bhi Hadis say Sabit nahi, ya bhi Fiqah ka masla hai aor Ghair Mukalid iss mislay mai ek terhan say Fiqah ke takleed kartay hain !!

JAWAAB:

Agar kisi k naseeb may hadayet likhi hai to Inshaallah tumhara ye sawaal aur iss par mera jawab dekh kar Allah Ose Zaroor Hadayet deGa Inshallah…
Fajar k 2 Farz bhii hadees se Sabit hen aur 2 sunnaten bhi ye lo zara parho…
“Jis Ne Din Aur Raat May 12 Rakaat Adaa keen Os k Liye Jannat may ghar bana dia jaye ga, 4 rakaat Zuhur se Pahle aur 2 rakaat Zuhur k baad, 2 Rakaat Maghrib k Baad, 2 rakaat ishaa k baad aur 2 rakaat Fajar se Pahle”
(See Sahi Muslim Hadith Number 728)

Fajar ki 2 sunateen dunya aur mafiha se bahtar hen
(sahimuslim kitab ul salah)

also see
bukhari 154
muslim 259
muslim257
bukhari135 etc


Aur Rahi baat Fajar K 2 Faraiz ki to hadees ki koi kitaab aisy nahi jis say fajar k 2 faraiz sabit na hoon,tum kisi bhi hadees ki kitaab ka Kitab-ul-Salat khul kar check kar lo…
Isi Liye Ham kehte hen k MUQALID jahil hota hy, use deen ka itna hi pata hota hy jitna os k imam ne use sikhaya hota hy…….
07:02 Unknown

Bismillahirrahmanirraheem

NAMAZ E FAJR KI SUNNAT AUR FARZ:

SAWAAL:

Namaz-e-Fajar ke 2 sunnat hain aor 2 Faraz hain, ya bhi Hadis say Sabit nahi, ya bhi Fiqah ka masla hai aor Ghair Mukalid iss mislay mai ek terhan say Fiqah ke takleed kartay hain !!

JAWAAB:

Agar kisi k naseeb may hadayet likhi hai to Inshaallah tumhara ye sawaal aur iss par mera jawab dekh kar Allah Ose Zaroor Hadayet deGa Inshallah…
Fajar k 2 Farz bhii hadees se Sabit hen aur 2 sunnaten bhi ye lo zara parho…
“Jis Ne Din Aur Raat May 12 Rakaat Adaa keen Os k Liye Jannat may ghar bana dia jaye ga, 4 rakaat Zuhur se Pahle aur 2 rakaat Zuhur k baad, 2 Rakaat Maghrib k Baad, 2 rakaat ishaa k baad aur 2 rakaat Fajar se Pahle”
(See Sahi Muslim Hadith Number 728)

Fajar ki 2 sunateen dunya aur mafiha se bahtar hen
(sahimuslim kitab ul salah)

also see
bukhari 154
muslim 259
muslim257
bukhari135 etc


Aur Rahi baat Fajar K 2 Faraiz ki to hadees ki koi kitaab aisy nahi jis say fajar k 2 faraiz sabit na hoon,tum kisi bhi hadees ki kitaab ka Kitab-ul-Salat khul kar check kar lo…
Isi Liye Ham kehte hen k MUQALID jahil hota hy, use deen ka itna hi pata hota hy jitna os k imam ne use sikhaya hota hy…….

A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

For cutting the grass: $5.00
For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00
For going to the store for you: $.50
Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: $.25
Taking out the garbage: $1.00
For getting a good report card: $5.00
For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00
Total owed: $14.75

Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he’d written on, and this is what she wrote:

For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me:
No Charge
For all the nights that I’ve sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you:
No Charge
For all the trying times, and all the tears that you’ve caused through the years:
No Charge
For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead:
No Charge
For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose:
No Charge
Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is:
No Charge.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, “Mom, I sure do love you.” And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: “PAID IN FULL”.

Lessons:

You will never know your parents worth till you become a parent

Be a giver not an acquirer, especially with your parents. there is a lot to give, besides money.

BECAUSE MONEY IS THE WORST WAY OF MEASURING HAPPINESS…♥
[http://www.PureMatrimony.com/] 
A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

For cutting the grass: $5.00
For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00
For going to the store for you: $.50
Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: $.25
Taking out the garbage: $1.00
For getting a good report card: $5.00
For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00
Total owed: $14.75

Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he’d written on, and this is what she wrote:

For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me:
No Charge
For all the nights that I’ve sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you:
No Charge
For all the trying times, and all the tears that you’ve caused through the years:
No Charge
For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead:
No Charge
For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose:
No Charge
Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is:
No Charge.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, “Mom, I sure do love you.” And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: “PAID IN FULL”.

Lessons:

You will never know your parents worth till you become a parent

Be a giver not an acquirer, especially with your parents. there is a lot to give, besides money.

BECAUSE MONEY IS THE WORST WAY OF MEASURING HAPPINESS…♥
SUBHALLAH !!!
06:50 Unknown

A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

For cutting the grass: $5.00
For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00
For going to the store for you: $.50
Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: $.25
Taking out the garbage: $1.00
For getting a good report card: $5.00
For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00
Total owed: $14.75

Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he’d written on, and this is what she wrote:

For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me:
No Charge
For all the nights that I’ve sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you:
No Charge
For all the trying times, and all the tears that you’ve caused through the years:
No Charge
For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead:
No Charge
For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose:
No Charge
Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is:
No Charge.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, “Mom, I sure do love you.” And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: “PAID IN FULL”.

Lessons:

You will never know your parents worth till you become a parent

Be a giver not an acquirer, especially with your parents. there is a lot to give, besides money.

BECAUSE MONEY IS THE WORST WAY OF MEASURING HAPPINESS…♥
[http://www.PureMatrimony.com/] 
A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

For cutting the grass: $5.00
For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00
For going to the store for you: $.50
Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: $.25
Taking out the garbage: $1.00
For getting a good report card: $5.00
For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00
Total owed: $14.75

Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he’d written on, and this is what she wrote:

For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me:
No Charge
For all the nights that I’ve sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you:
No Charge
For all the trying times, and all the tears that you’ve caused through the years:
No Charge
For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead:
No Charge
For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose:
No Charge
Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is:
No Charge.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, “Mom, I sure do love you.” And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: “PAID IN FULL”.

Lessons:

You will never know your parents worth till you become a parent

Be a giver not an acquirer, especially with your parents. there is a lot to give, besides money.

BECAUSE MONEY IS THE WORST WAY OF MEASURING HAPPINESS…♥
SUBHALLAH !!!